Do you have any advice for people that have the same problem that you and Flaps are trying to overcome? I think many of us would benefit from advice and positivity, but only if you are able to offer it.

* this has been sitting a while – runi wanted me to be able to answer this one myself.

* i think something really important to remember is like…. don’t overextend yourself. you can only do so much – and even then, you aren’t obligated to push yourself so far for other people.

* i know that sounds fairly harsh – and i know a lot of you will probably see this and think something along the lines of “well, that can’t mean THIS, x person NEEDS me and i’m the ONLY ONE who can do xyz”

* and man let me tell you!!! i’ve been there! i’m stuck thinking that all the time. it sucks putting that much pressure on yourself because then you’re always trying to prove – whether to just yourself or to other people – that you CAN do everything, that you can fix all of everyone’s problems

* but the thing is – you can’t. you won’t EVER be able to be, like…. The One that Solves Everything and Saves The Day, Every Day. it’s unfortunately extremely unrealistic – and not only that, but holding yourself to a standard like that is only gonna bring about a lot of hell for you.

* this isn’t me saying that you shouldn’t help out where you can, though! there’s definitely merit in being helpful, in being there for your friends and all that – but the important thing here is to know your own limits and step back when you need to step back. overextending helps no one in the end, and you aren’t solely responsible for taking care of everyone in your circle personally.

* don’t be afraid to tell people that you can’t help, or that you need some time to yourself. i know it’s hard – really hard in some situations – but pushing yourself too far past your limits never ends well.